HOW TO TALK TO EVERYONE

Learn To Talk Smart

If you wants to talk smart then this article is helpful for you.this article  is taken from the famous book "How To Talk To Everyone" written by  Leil Lowndes .

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To talk smart we follow these points :- 

1. HOW TO AVOID QUESTION THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO ANSWER ?

2. HOW TO TALK TO SOMEONE WHEN YOU HAVE NO INTEREST ?
3. HOW TO ALWAYS HAVE SOMETHING INTERESTING TO SAY ?
4. HOW TO GET RESPECT FROM A SPECIFIC PERSON ?

1. HOW TO AVOID QUESTION THAT YOU DON'T WANT TO ANSWER ?

From politely declining, to giving information you are willing to share, here are nine ways to address a question you don’t want to answer.

1. MAKE SURE YOU UNDERSTAND THE QUESTION

People are not always exact or clear about their language, and it’s easy to assume what you think they’re asking, says Jay Sullivan, author of Simply Said: Communicating Better At Work And Beyond.

“The first thing to do is clarify the question,” he says. “You don’t want to dance around an answer and then have the person say, ‘No, that’s not what I’m asking. I’m asking something different or simpler.’ Make sure you’re getting the question right,” Sullivan advises.

Steinreich says this strategy mimics what most of us learned in grade school about inserting portions of the question in our answers, but adds a caution. “This strategy is treacherous when you are asked a negative question,” he says, “One of the most important things to remember is to never repeat the negative language of a question.”

3. ANSWER PART OF THE QUESTION

If you don’t want to answer the entire question, find a part that you can address, says Sullivan.

“You can say, ‘I appreciate that this is of interest, right now. Let’s focus on this part,’” he says. “Briefly answering part of the question may be enough to assuage and satisfy them.”

4. POSTPONE YOUR ANSWER

Another technique is to claim you do not have sufficient information to responsibly or intelligently provide an answer. Buy yourself some time by saying, “That is an important question and I want to make sure I give you the best and most complete answer I can. I will need to get back to you in (time frame),” says Nick Kalm, founder and president of Reputation Partners, a Chicago-based strategic communications firm.

“By the time you circle back to the questioner, you can pick and choose the aspects of their question that you want to address,” he says.

5. TURN AROUND THE PRONOUNS

There are three ways to communicate, explains Sullivan: talk about yourself, talk about your content, or talk about the audience. “Almost everybody talks about themselves or the content, but that’s not how you connect with people,” he says.

The difference between giving a good answer and a better answer could simply be your use of pronouns, says Sullivan. “Focus on other people,” he says. “You can say, ‘It’s interesting that you think that,’ for example. ‘Why is this question of interest to you?’ Changing ‘I’ to ‘you’ can take the focus off of you.”

6. DIVERT THE QUESTION

You can also resolve the situation by diverting to a different topic, says Eldonna Lewis-Fernandez, author of Think Like a Negotiator: 50 Ways to Create Win-Win Results by Understanding the Pitfalls to Avoid. “Say, ‘What I think you really want to know is…and this is how we are handling that,’” she says.

Kalm says this technique is called “bridging.” “While this is most useful in media interviews, it can be used in almost any setting,” he says. “Bridging involves acknowledging, not ignoring, the question with a phrase such as ‘That’s an interesting question, but I’d like to point out…’ or ‘That’s not quite right. The fact is …’ and then moving on to one of your key messages.”

7. GIVE THE ASKER SOME CONTROL

Tough questions tend to be emotional because the person is frustrated or anxious, often when something takes too long or costs too much.

“Give the other person control over the conversation,” Sullivan advises. “You can say, ‘I understand you’re frustrated. Would it be helpful if I shared some information about that?’” he suggests. “This gives the person control over the conversation, and he or she will automatically calm down.”

8. WATCH YOUR TONE

You can also refuse to answer the question, but be sure to be polite. “Say, ‘I appreciate that this is of interest but we don’t feel sharing the information is appropriate, especially at this time. But I’d be glad to answer other questions if you have them,’” says Sullivan. “Appreciate the interest but draw lines.”

It can be tempting to answer difficult questions with only a “yes” or a “no,” but it’s important to supplement them with a key message instead, says Kalm.

9. AND WATCH YOUR BODY LANGUAGE

The way you hold your body is as important as your tone, says Sullivan. Maintain eye contact, and hold yourself in a neutral position. “The second you do anything makes you seem defensive, such as crossing your arms or avoiding eye contact, it puts the other person on edge,” he says. “They think, ‘Now I’ve got them.’” As Sullivan points out, “Neutral body language sends the message, ‘I want to answer this question,’ and that alone can help the situation.”

2. HOW TO TALK TO SOMEONE WHEN YOU HAVE NO INTEREST ?

When You Don't Feel Interested In People And What They Have To Say

A common social skills suggestion is to take a genuine interest in other people. It is useful advice. In a broader sense it puts you in a mindset where you're looking for the best in others. At a more practical level it can structure your interactions and help you think of things to say. Many people appreciate having someone take an interest in them too, so you'll tend to come off better if you go into interactions with that mindset.

Some people are concerned because they struggle to take an interest in others and what they have to say. They'll express thoughts such as:

• "I just don't find most people that interesting. I know I should, but I'm just not."
• "I can't bring myself to care when a co-worker or party guest is telling me about mundane things like how their week is going or why they like some random hobby."
• "I can't be bothered to try to learn about people, because most of them are boring and generic. They don't have anything to say that I need to hear."
• "I know how to go through the motions of asking people about themselves and seeming interested, but I don't actually enjoy those conversations."
• "I don't get much from talking to people unless we're discussing one of my narrow interests."
• "I don't want to learn details about people for its own sake. I'm like, 'What's the point?' How am I benefiting by hearing about this?'"
• "I'm self-reliant and happy to be on my own. I don't need to be learning about everyone's lives all the time. "

Sometimes these views will be tinted with misanthropic feelings. More often people who think this way don't hate everyone. They just aren't internally motivated to get to know people better. They realize it interferes with their social life and wish they could be more interested in others, but aren't sure how to change their mentality.

If you have this issue, some ideas that may help are below. This related article covers what to do if you're okay with talking to people, but tend to lose interest in them soon after you become friends:

In one word to say ;- you can repeat those word that they wants to talk 

for example 

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